The Family Bonds

The insensitivity certain family members have shown to Aidan's autism continues to astound me. I feel that the hardening of a person's heart is the only thing that could allow such behavior. Especially to an innocent child such as Aidan, as well as two parents who are suffering through this diagnosis.

I received an incredibly condescending email today from family members regarding Aidan's autism. The beginning of the email lifted themselves up by professing themselves to be loving encouragers these last several months, rather than dismissing my concerns of Aidan even having autism. Yes these are the same individuals who I quote told me "Aidan does not have autism". I have written about these people in my previous blogs and they continue to spew their hurtful venom. Not only are they now making themselves out to be martyrs, but they mock my son's diagnosis. The final blow to this message was the discussion of vaccines. Mind you I have never said I am against vaccines, but I do feel they have played a role in Aidan's autism. I was told in this email, that I do not know the cause for Aidan's autism. How dare they!!!!!!! Who has the right to tell a mother who knows her child better than anyone and has watched his development day by day since the moment of his birth. How dare speak for me, or for the thousands of mother's who feel the same way I do.

Unfortunately the bonds of family can be destroyed by many things and this happens everyday. Infidelity, lies, divorce, betrayal, disease, and in this case autism. It just astounds me that these bonds have been broken by the same people who have once claimed to love Aidan. Aidan will fortunately never know these people because they will never see him again...........except maybe one day when he graduates college and they are lucky enough to get a picture of his face in the mail. I will continue to pray for the hearts of those who have hurt us so badly, and that they may feel remorse for their actions. As this year comes to an end, it is amazing to see the journey I have been on. I know in the depths of my heart that I can hold my head high as a mother. I have put my armor on as a true mommy warrior and nobody will ever take that from me. I WILL win this battle and I WILL honor my son in doing so. He is most important through all this, and that is a BOND that they will never break.